Thursday, July 21, 2011

Compassion for Others - Trademark elegance

I recently read this book A Friend Like Henry: The Remarkable True Story of an Autistic Boy and the Dog That Unlocked His World and have now a greater understanding and compassion for those who have the disability, Autism and especially mothers who have children with autism.
A Friend Like Henry: The Remarkable True Story of an Autistic Boy and the Dog That Unlocked His World 
I was extremely humbled by this read about a mother's struggles to help her autistic children fit into society and be independent.

It pains me to recall the thoughts through my head as I read through Nuala's she struggled with a son who did not seem to love her back, who seemed normal on the outside but throw terrifying tantrums in public, who suffered condescending remarks from outsiders. I do not think I'm as noble.

It also provided an insight to what people with autism go through, their frustrations and battles to fit in our society rules and social norm.

Eighty percent of our communication is non-verbal, coming from eyes, faces and body language and it is in this area people with autism often have the greatest difficulty.
Dale, who has autism says in his own words, "I hated trying to work out what someone's face was telling me, especially if it was a new one or someone I didn't know every well. I found it scary as I couldn't work out if they were angry or feeling all right, and I found the whole eye contact thing very confusing and frightening."

Though this book isn't about elegance, I find that having compassion for and interest in others is a trademark of elegance.And this book brings that part out of us. Sometimes it is not a person's fault if she does not seem to care - I believe that stems of the lack of exposure and ignorance and the lack of understanding of those in need. A greater exposure to life helps us realize and understand that our privileges and comfy comforts are not bestowed on us to just to enjoy but also to help others.


  1. As the mother of a child with autism, thank you for trying to understand.

  2. Love and blessings to you LaRae and your family - Eunice