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Monday, February 28, 2011

The Number One Trait of Being Classy

Sometimes in my work on elegantwoman.org, I meet people who are tedious.

Reading their superior emails makes me tired. Their backhanded comments are served on a silver platter masked by kindness.

I'm not interested in that kind of etiquette and society that is basically head knowledge filled with airs and pretension. You've missed the whole point of the knowledge of books, opera, wine, cheese, art if they are what you use to classify people. I don't like the way a person is judged by their knowledge of books, opera, wine and art.

People are people and their feelings matter.

That is more important than being sophisticated.

That is the ULTIMATE, number one characteristic of being classy.

My dear readers, do not let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. In your daily lives, there will always be someone who lets you know they are better than you (more sophisticated, intelligent, wealthy etc.)

Be inspired, not discouraged. Walk away with your head held high knowing you are a woman of value. You are on your own journey, becoming the woman YOU want to be, going after your own passion and dreams. And nobody can take that away from you.

Much love and always rooting for you.

P.s. I'm going to read a good book or listen to an encouraging message by my pastor to get rid of all the negativity and blah my poor mind had to be put through just to make sure elegantwoman.org is on top of things.

6 comments:

  1. I love this. It reminds me of one of my son's physician's. He is very kind to everyone, no matter what their position in life. My son was born with medical issues and is hospitalized a lot. No matter what staff I speak to, whether it's the cleaning staff, the nurse or the aides, all speak of how nice and kind he is...when I watch his interaction with any of the staff members, I notice that he treats everyone the same, is respectful to all and listens equally to everyone.

    And finally, I have heard that people may not always remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Nice post, Eunice.

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  2. I think you are right on point about the fact that people's feelings matter. The knowledge of books, opera and all that should not be used to determine whether a person is classy or not.
    I totally understand you and I love the work you do on here. I admire you for being able to keep your composure despite those negative attitude from people. That is what an elegant woman should do.

    Keep up the good work and God bless you.

    Liz

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  3. I've always felt that those who rattle off wine names, opera names, and cheese names in order to sound sophisticated are posers of sort... I feel that truly sophisticated people are refined and wouldn't do such a thing.

    And one of the most sophisticated young men I know, Nick, doesn't like opera. He gave it a chance but he just didn't try it. I think that poser sophisticates will pretend to like things like opera just because that's what society tells you to like but true sophisticates will have an honest and genuine opinion. Nick doesn't like opera and can support that opinion and for me, that's more sophisticated than if he were to pretend to like opera because he thinks it makes him look good.

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  4. Elegant manners, clothing and character would fall into characterictics of a classy person. It does not take a lot of money to be a person of a good taste and character. Some sofistication, though, is required.

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  5. Since my recent marriage I have received some snail-mail addressed to Mrs. MyFirstName MyNewLastName. That is the way to address a woman who is divorced: Mrs. Jane Smith is a divorced woman. The construction "Mrs. John Smith" is used for married or widowed women. Addressing people properly is in good taste, and it can be done for free.

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  6. Absolutely lovely advice: poignant and beautiful.

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